How to Choose a Crystal for Some One Else

How to choose a crystal for someone else

It is often said that it is better to give then to receive and we all have people we need to buy a gift for now and again and a crystal can be a magical gift to give or to receive.

When purchasing a crystal for a gift I always try to think about the person I am purchasing for.  I like to stop and take a moment, to think what they like, colours, food, clothes and then where they are in their lives at the moment.  What may help them?  What pressures are they coping with?

There are small gifts you can give, like tumblestones or useful gifts like a crystal keyring.  You can purchase a heart shaped gift to show someone you love them or a pocket angel to say you are thinking of them.  If they are a goth perhaps a crystal skull may suit them better.  I have crystal tealight holders that are perfect for the meditator in your life or book ends or the reader.

There is a crystal for everyone. I often make mystery boxes for customers and its always nice to get an idea of the person who the box is for, otherwise I just take a moment and meditate on the person and the intention  and choose the stones.   I always write a little note listing each stone and its properties and wrap them carefully, usually enclosing a piece of Selenite to make sure they all travel safely.

If they are new to crystals, ask the seller to jot some notes about the crystal and the benefits or write some yourself.

There is a birthstone for each month, which may help:

January : Garnet

February: Amethyst

March: Aquamarine

April: Diamond

May: Emerald

June: Pearl

July: Ruby

August: Peridot

September: Sapphire

October: Tourmaline or Opal

November: Topaz or Citrine

December: Turquiose

Just make sure you have fun and enjoy the gift purchase and giving and you may always find out something about yourself on the journey.

Is My Crystal Real or a Fake?

In these strange times it is hard to know who to trust and just what is real and is not.

In this blog post I will discuss how to tell if your crystal is real or has it just had a little make over.


Often you will find a very orange almost rusty looking Citrine, which is heat treated Amethyst.  This Amethyst has been baked in a oven and the result is this Citrine (this is how Citrine is made in nature).  Natural Citrine can often look quite dull in comparison.


Agate is a very common crystal and comes from many parts of the world.  In its natural state you can find it in many different natural shades, Black through greys and into whites, but in shops you can find shocking pink, jazzy purples and bright blues to name a few.  These colours are added to the natural rock as dyes to enhance the beauty.  It is not a fake, but it is wearing make up.  Sometimes you can find that the dye will rub of and can leave marks.


Howlite is naturally a white colour, but you will often find blue Howlite or less commonly purple and again these are dyed.  Not fakes, still beautiful in their own rights.

Aura Quartz

These is a new thing, quartz points (and other stones) and taken and infused with metals giving them interesting colours and properties.  These Aura Quartz’s are highly prized and make wonderful jewellery,


Opalite isn’t a real crystal it is a type of glass that is man made, but looks beautiful that people will often buy them just for the look.

I would suggest always buying your crystals from a reputable store and of course if you are worried ask them.  I source all my stones from genuine UK suppliers that I have been using for years.

Aura Quartz

Keeping Positive in these strange times

We all know that 2020 was an unusual year and most of us spent it lock in our homes, those of us lucky enough to have a garden made as much use of it as possible and time kind of stood still.

Although we are allowed to go out for exercise, a lot us didn’t really want to….you get used to staying in your home and even though you might be getting cabin fever the daily diet of Covid news was enough to put most people off going out of the front door.

Well now we are in 2021, and have been in total lockdown since last December, but in theory the end is in sight.  With this in mind I am trying to develop a positive state of mind.

Start every day on a positive note

Start every day on a positive note.  Listen to some music that makes you happy.  Have a shower with some refreshing scented shower gel and wash your hair.  A routine makes this easier.

Practise Positive Self Talk

This can be hard, we all doubt ourselves and love nothing better than looking in the mirror and seeing the worst bits of ourselves.  Instead try to turn these things around, we know some things we are really good at, and if we practise at the weaker areas we will get better at them, that’s the way it works.  Don’t ignore these faults, change them.  If you have jumped a dress size during the lockdown, you can do something about it, if you want to.

Focus on the Good Things

Don’t dwell on the negatives, focus on the positives.  It may be cold outside but the heating is keeping you warm as toast inside.  It is almost Spring time and you can see the flowers starting and the birds are singing.  There is always something to be positive about, no matter how small.

Meditation can also help to quiet your mind and give you some time to yourself.

Fingers crossed this year will get better and better……

Essential Oils, explored

While essential oils have remained a staple in alternative medicine for centuries, the way they are being used is changing. So much so, that the new Netflix series Unwell explored both sides of the essential oils debate on the first show in the series.  Are essential oils safe or unsafe? Do they possess any proven useful properties? Such questions are barely explored, and no medical doctors make the final cut, but it was still very interesting viewing and a very interesting topic.

With all of this new information, comes serious questions. Namely, what evidence is there to support these ideas being safe? Have these blends or oils been properly tested before being recommended to users?

In this month’s blog, we’re putting our decades of knowledge to the test, and uncovering some of the mysteries surrounding essential oil use, so you can feel safe and confident using your essential oils.

The best way to guarantee you’re purchasing high-quality essential oils is to check the Material Safety Data Sheets (MSDS). If a retailer can’t provide you with one of these, it’s probably a bad sign.

You cannot eat Essential Oils.  Regardless of how pure your essential oils are, how meticulously they’re filtered, or the extraction method used to obtain them, you should never ingest them. As highly concentrated extracts, essential oils are extremely potent and can be dangerous if eaten.

Always use a carrier oil.  Essential oils can cause serious chemical burns when they aren’t used properly, if you’re trying to treat a minor skin condition, you could end up making it much worse by using too high a dose.

They are amazing but essential oils are not a miracle cure. Often, they can be used in conjunction with traditional treatments to aid in recovery, but they are not a one-size-fits-all solution. Make sure you consult a doctor and a qualified aromatherapist before adding them to a treatment plan.

Our healing creams can work wonders on your hands, feet and even your face.  It is always great to receive feedback from customers and the Frankincense and Myrrh cream always greats rave reviews.

Shopping Small, Locally and Fairly Traded

With Covid 19 we have all been effected.  In the UK many people have been laid off or are uncertain as to whether they will have jobs next week, next month or next year.  These are very uncertain times.

Many of us with websites and ecommerce sellers have  been busier than usual, although we have had to change suppliers, stock and even shippers, so it hasn’t been without issues.  I try to shop small and locally where ever possible and love to frequent my local butchers and bakers and I was overjoyed when I could get a haircut after a 4month brake.

On my website and also in my marketplace stores I try to sell items that are ethically sourced and produced.  Fairly traded items from all over the world hand crafted by artisians and there has never been a better time to purchase these.  They are coming back into stock after months of lockdown.  Many of the countries have been badly effected by Covid, and are finding it hard to bounce back.

Bali is suffering from a lack of tourists, as no one dares to travel in case of another lockdown.

India is starting to recover, and lockdowns are starting to ease.

ALL of our suppliers have said how important it has been for them and their workers to have orders to work on and in some cases, this has been their only source of income. There have been many stories about big clothing companies cancelling orders around the world, and it is, therefore, all the more important that Fair Trade companies continue to place orders. Never before has the phrase “the more we trade, the more we aid” been more relevant.

Good luck for the future and Thank You


How to Cleanse Your Crystals

Your crystals work hard for you and you can replenish their energies by cleansing them.

It is important when you buy crystals that you personally cleanse them, recharge them and introduce your self to them.  Whether you’ve bought them online and they have travelled a distance through the post, or they’ve been sitting in your home for a few months, all crystals need cleansing from time to time.

Here are a few ways to cleanse your crystals:

The Moon

When the Moon is full, pop your crystals in a safe place, either outside or on a window ledge and let them moon bathe.  The power of the Full Moon will cleanse them, recharging their powers.  Make sure they are in a safe place, some crystals dont like water, so if you are leaving them outside, check the weather report before you go to bed.


Cleanse your crystals and home with smoke.  Either use a sage smudge stick, Palo Santo Wood or Incense stick and light the stick and fan the smoke around your home or over your crystals.  All the negative energies will be removed with the smoke.

Running Water

If you live near a river, you can take your crystals to the stream and cleanse them with fresh running water.  This works well for hard stones like Quartz and Amethyst.


Selenite never needs cleansing and can cleanse other stones.  Use a Selenite Charger and place your smaller tumbles on it and they will be re-charged,



Healing Crystals for Today

Well 2020 has been a very strange year, and our health and the health of our loved ones has been at the forefront of our minds.

Crystals can be a great help for health.

Quartz The Master Healer,a great all round healing stone.

Amethyst is an easy crystal to find and can help your immune system, it also is called the Dream Stone, and can help you get a good nights sleep with no nightmares.  This of course will aid your health and well being.

Aquamarine can help sufferers of asthma and allergies, making this a great stone to carry with you this time of year.

Apatite, I love this vibrant blue stone and it has been calling to me this year.  It is aid to assist the healing and immune system and works on your throat.

Lepidolite is a wonderful calming, healing stone.  It helps you sleep better and removes stresses from your life.

Listen to your heart and body it will often show you the crystals you need.  I have been carrying Selenite and Apatite and have some Amethyst and Lepidolite under my pillow.

I hope you find this post interesting.


COVID 19 Update


As of Monday 30th March the Royal Mail have suspended International deliveries to the countries below, so we cannot fulfil orders to these countries via standard mail services:

Sri Lanka
New Zealand
Tanzania (DAR)
French Polynesia
Caribbean Islands (BVI)
Turks & Caicos
Caribbean Islands – Dominican Republic
Caribbean Islands –Haiti
South Africa
Cayman Islands
South Korea



Following the Government announcement this week many of you may be concerned as to whether or not our online store is open. We’re keeping open for as long as we safely can. We’re in constant touch with all relevant authorities to make sure that we continue to do everything we can to support our customers online and colleagues through this challenging time. We’ll keep making any changes necessary to keep everyone safe, and one way or another, we’ll continue to provide the essential service to you.

First and foremost I hope you are safe and well.

Delivery situation.

Right now most couriers in the UK are fulfilling deliveries to a good standard, you are probably aware the no contact systems being employed.  The Royal Mail collect the post every afternoon and are doing a fantastic job.

Stock situation.

Our buying team has been working round the clock to ensure supplies, particularly of in-demand items. Vitamins, Soaps and Menthol Crystals are selling well.  Vitamins have been particularly in demand and as many of the component parts come from China there have been issues with stock and many lines are currently sold out.

Many of our suppliers have closed, and will re-open when they are able.

Please stay safe, take care of yourself.

And it goes without saying – but remember to call your friends and family.. wash your hands often and keep calm and carry on.

How to use a Latex Mould

Here at Kindness101 I make latex moulds, these are a labour of love taking at least 3 days to hand brush the various layers of latex required and then you need at least 24 hours to fully cure them.  Now the exciting part happens, they are shipped to their new homes and used….


The key to all things is preparation, get everything you need ready and in one place.  Clear a space that you can use and tell others in your home what you are doing so they wont interrupt you.

Items Needed:

Plaster or Concrete

Cold Water in measuring jug

Mixing Bowl (Plastic)

Mixing Stick (plastic)


Bowl with support (uncooked rice for small moulds, sand or other for larger moulds)

Weighing scales


I rinse my mould out with water to dampen it before use, I find that this helps remove pesky air bubbles,

I measure out my plaster and calculate how much water is required.  I always use cold water as this gives you a longer working time.  Add the plaster to the water and mix, being careful not to beat it and add air bubbles.

Once the mixture has combined you can then pour it in to the waiting mould.  I always tap the mould and shake it vigorously to ensure the air bubbles are removed.

Then comes the hardest bit, waiting.

You need to wait for the plaster to set and then wait some more.  My biggest mistake has always been demoulding to early.  Be careful when removing your mould.  You can use water (warm) or I like to use talc, it stops the mould sticking to itself.  Gently peel the mould back a piece at a time, latex is very stretchy and some moulds are super easy to remove, some take a little more patience.  Once you have used a mould a couple of times you will know how it comes off and the best way to remove it, trial and error is always the biggest teacher.

I hope you enjoy using my moulds.  I love to make items in Concrete and plaster and may one day try resin and who knows where I will end up…..


Once you have used your mould and you are not planning to use it again for a while wash it if needed and then dry it thoroughly.  Once dry, dust it with a anti bacterial talc and store it in a dry, dark, cool place.  If looked after the moulds can and will last for years.

Valentines Day and Crystals

Rutilated Quartz Pocket Heart

Valentines Day is 14th February.

Also called Saint Valentine’s Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine.  It is a celebration of love and romance.  Cards and small gifts are often exchanged.

Local to me here in Norfolk a character called ‘Jack’ Valentine knocks on the rear door of houses leaving sweets and presents for children. Although he was leaving treats, many children were scared of this mystical person.  This tradition is still kept alive today in some households.

Rose Quartz is called the Love Stone and is often given as a token to ones we love.  It can be a sign of romantic love or the love and compassion you have for friends or family.  It resonates with the Heart Chakra is a kind, healing stone.  Soft pink in colour, it is very beautiful.

You can find crystals cut into Heart shapes in all different colours and sizes and these make lovely gifts and there will always be a crystal suitable for every taste.  Black Obsidian, Flashy Labradorite or Ancient Fossil Wood.

It can be nice to find a reason to buy a small gift for someone you care about, so have fun and enjoy this Valentines Day.

Lepidolite Polished